Almost twelve years ago we brought home our first little baby from the hospital. After a cesarean section birth due to his breech positioning, we began to wonder what other surprises this baby would bring into our lives. Now, with four more children in our home we have learned that weathering "surprises" is one key to successful parenting.
Some days bring greater challenges than others. And, some bring far more incredible joys than I could have ever imagined. I thank God that He has walked this journey with us, because we must daily tap into His grace, patience, love, justice, and mercy to parent adequately.
Before we even conceived our first child I had gone to visit a high school friend for a week. I marveled at her sweet little girl as I contemplated the growing number of, shall we say, active and independent children in the world. We talked a bit about parenting and she referred me to a book by Michael and Debi Pearl entitled To Train Up a Child.
My husband and I read through this book during that first pregnancy. It helped us get on the same parenting page, reinforced some of the positives we had experienced in our homes growing up, and helped us understand some of the negatives. This book gave us a vision for training our children and a unity of purpose and perspective.
Just a few of the nuggets that I gleaned from this book:
- Leave your emotions out of child training (don't get angry, offended, defensive, etc.)
- Stay consistent (say what you mean and mean what you say)
- Find joy in your children
- Don't overlook attitudes even if a child is externally obedient
This book did not address every parenting situation we have faced, and I don't necessarily agree with the way they handle every situation either. But it did give us a foundation to build from and I have enjoyed the Pearl's website and free online magazine which has often encouraged me to continue parenting with joy, consistency, and a vision.
To kick off this new series focusing on motherhood, I have three of these books to give away. I would love for you to find encouragement in these pages as well. The books I have are the original book with the black and white cover, as opposed to the updated color edition on their website.
From their website:
From successful parents, learn how to train up your children rather than discipline them up. With humor and real-life examples this book shows you how to train your children before the need to discipline arises. Be done with corrective discipline; make them allies rather than adversaries. The stress will be gone and your obedient children will praise you and bring joy and peace into your home. Thousands have testified to the amazing results of these profoundly simple techniques.
Chapter titles include Parental Anger, The Rod, Selective Subjection, Safety Training, Potty Training, Attitude Training, Emotional Control, Bullies, Imitations, and many others.
If you could use a dose of renewed vision or are working to establish a vision for your home you have an opportunity to receive one or two entries in this giveaway:
- Leave a comment (if you don't have a blog, make sure to leave your name and/or email so I can contact you).
- Blog about it and come back and leave another comment with the link to that post.